ANGER BECOMES HATRED BECOMES VIOLENCE Hatred is not a feeling. Anger is a feeling. Hatred is ossified anger. We hate someone at whom we are angry, when we haven't expressed the anger. If we share anger directly with the person, it can open dialogue, even carrying us beyond the anger. Writing the anger or sharing it in conversation with others can also enable us to work it through. Avoiding expression leaves us alone with the anger, and the anger has nowhere to go. So it ferments in our bellies and intensifies, like a volcano, and then what bursts forth is not only anger but also an objectification of the other, an objectification called hate. Hatred fills the hole left by the absence of relationship. Vilifying the objectified other creates a new form of expression, which is hatred. Once relationship is gone, hatred enables violence, objectification in the absence of relationship. I feel I can harm someone whom I have turned into an object and who is "worthy" of my hatred. If others can understand from my hateful speech that I am also encouraging them to hate, and possibly to harm the object, that speech becomes incitement.