There are many ways in which a therapist can help with a difficult divorce how effective they will vary for different individuals. That is a point that I think you have made very well here. I have seen a couple of friends through difficult divorces. It can be really rough and finding the right type of treatment is important. While looking into therapy for a friend I got reading about how different people behave towards different types of treatment. I came across some very interesting work by Dr. Prout who looks right into the behavior of patients when they are diagnosed and treated. I would suggest it as being very insightful reading for those that also find the points in this post, of value. To look at his work I recommend you visit his site, at www.mauriceproutphd.com