Thanks for this story, Bradley. Beautiful impulse—to give without conditions, and still our conditioning rises up and asks to be dealt with, doesn't it? I believe the act of giving freely, practiced over a lifetime, makes us people who are ‘generous of spirit,’ where generosity becomes infused into everything we do. It is a process of transformation that occurs little by little over the span of a lifetime. Giving with no strings gets us there. We let go fully. For me, when questions arise such as, “Does this person really need xyz. Or are they going to spend my donation on alcohol,” I let them go because the transformation that is happening is occurring in my own heart, in my own being. The receiving at the other end will work itself out. I can trust the universe on this. I hope this is helpful to you and Carol and your kids. I am touched by your story and your hearts. On another note, there is a Zen monk named Bernie Glassman who used to take small groups of people for a weekend to live on the streets. I think he may have written about it.