Ragu: I'm thinking of what you told me Rev. Heng Sure once said to you when you asked him how it was possible to change others. He said, first you serve them. In the process of serving, you will discover if there is some affinity between you and them. Then from that affinity, they will begin to replicate your behavior and be changed.
Its a lot harder to do when there is some preset external objective like "build a house", and it takes a lot of wisdom to have no preset external objective. I'm bad at having zero agendas and need much much more practice in this myself, but I think its through the difficult experiences of others letting us down that we push ourselves into deeper practice. That lesson for myself has made it much easier to get over the aversion of difficult experiences. Isn't just the aversion that makes it difficult in the first place?
On Aug 16, 2009 rahul wrote:
Ragu: I'm thinking of what you told me Rev. Heng Sure once said to you when you asked him how it was possible to change others. He said, first you serve them. In the process of serving, you will discover if there is some affinity between you and them. Then from that affinity, they will begin to replicate your behavior and be changed.
Its a lot harder to do when there is some preset external objective like "build a house", and it takes a lot of wisdom to have no preset external objective. I'm bad at having zero agendas and need much much more practice in this myself, but I think its through the difficult experiences of others letting us down that we push ourselves into deeper practice. That lesson for myself has made it much easier to get over the aversion of difficult experiences. Isn't just the aversion that makes it difficult in the first place?