[My share at last night's Awakin Circle!]

Any time you're having a bad day and somebody asks you how you're feeling and you say fine -- that's a good litmus test of who is *not* a heart connection. A loved one will assess the situation and say, "No, you're not fine. Tell me what's up."

My two year old and I have a game we play -- 20 questions. I'd ask her questions and she tells me when it's the right question. :) "Are you tired?" She would just shake her head. "You want your food?" "You want to be go to bed?" "You want to go outside?" And finally when I ask her the right question, she'll nod head and giggle and I'll know I've got the right question.

Over time, I learned exactly what her preferred schedule was. And now, we're so deeply connected that we don't even need to talk about it! I have 20 answers before even asking the questions. That's a heart connection.

Using that lesson, I'm applying that insight to my other relationships. If I have built a heart bond then I would know the normal patterns of the other person, and whenever I detect a change, I can say, "No, you're not fine. Tell me what's up."